I don't know how to handle this problem at all. I don't know if anyone can help me through this problem but atleast any suggestion u have might help me. I have a girlfriend who already have suffered all through her life for someone else mistakes. And I am the only son for my parents and 1 brother for 5 sistes. They all LOVE me just like how I love them. One of my sister have married to someone who is lower caste and my parents never accpted it so she pretty much ran away. Now we r all togather except her still in Srilanka suffereing out through all the problesm. My parents were very depressed about the fact that her daughter ran away cause, this whole family politics......ever since 1 of my sister married a lower caste, my parents concerned is who is is going ot marry there other childern when everyone knows that one of there daughter ran away and got to marry to some lower cast man. So pretty much we all stoped haveing relationship with that sister because of these reasons. IT make me cry about it when I think of that sister how much she is struggling.... My parents are also depressed even though it happned like 15 years ago....

now the problem is that, I alwasy wanted to make sure that I fall in love with someone who is my caste cause i don't my parents getting effected by this again. Also my dad just got a bypass operation and i dont want to make him get weeker. So i rejected many b4 getting into relationship, but now I have a girl friend who is very caring, and loving. She is someone i can't ever find for my self, but later today.. after 3 years of beeing wiht her, I find out that she is not the same caste as me. I am so worried.....I don't know what to do....I don't know if i should be there for my parents or for my girl. My parents are in a critical condition and my girl friend is also have faced through many depressions in her past (because someone messed up her life). I want to be there for her and be a carring husband, also want to be there for my parents who is sufferenig due to there healthy condition. I am not sure what to do, it seems like..I have to loose something. Even my self messed up universisty due some other problems i was facing in the past. Now I got over with all of that and trying to get thinks back on track, and i find this problem. My girl is reason for me to ge tback on track and she was there for me and helped out throught all the problems i was facing. i can't let her go for my parents cause she was there for me and i can't let go my parents cause they r also a caring parents. they lived all ther life for me..... I can understand my parents too cause, I seen how much they went throught.

My parents also know i have a girl friend they r all k with it but they think she is same caste as me. Thats how i told them but now i find out that she is different what i am .... so now too sure, how to handle this problem. I dont want to talk about this problme to my girlfriend cause she is going sacrifies he feelings for my parents. cause she is very caring. The reason that i couldnt' find out weather if she was same cast as me cause she lived all her life in Canada where she don't know anything about caste or her slef know what caste she is in. So if i explain her the situation she will do anything for me and say, please dont hurt ur paernts and live for them. but thats not what i want to do it for her, she is vary caring and i want to be there for her and i want to be there for my paretns. Can u please, give my some ideas... i am strugling each and every seconds without knowing what to do ... please help me....I dont want to put my parents to go through similar depression situation once again or my girl friend in to a depression situation. please help